friend or acquaintance ? Psychic Cowgirl?

do you have expectations from your friends? or family? are you aware that you do? what about acquaintances? ? I love how the Universe/God/Source always brings situations for us to ponder and peruse and learn from.

It has been brought to my attention that I do have expectations of friends. I have a standard that I hold them and myself to. I am fiercely loyal and do tend to overlook some less than up to my usual standards behaviour until I simply cannot anymore.? then I get choices on how I wish to handle the situation.

1.? talk about what a bitch that person is and? how you cannot believe they are acting like this, you would never do that!? telling everyone you know so that you can feel? justified.? be aware that it is very hard to recover any sort of relationship if you choose this option.???? doesn?t make it a bad option, but for sure a final one.? ( By the way, we have all done it so by stating you would NEVER do that is a form of self denial.? we are human~ shadow sides and all)

2.? to the person you act like everything is fine. You are? choosing to ignore or deny there is a problem with the hope that the situation will work itself out.? meanwhile wondering what it is that you did to make them not like you anymore, and trying your best to make them like you again.

3. realize that it is too much energy and effort to keep a friendship going when the energies are not reciprocal? and releasing them to the status of acquaintance to take the pressure off of each of you.? this does not require a conversation simply a shift in your perspective.? the relationship will naturally drift away.

4. have a conversation. this can be for sure the hardest option but worth it.? Ask the friend what is going on. are they OK?? you have noticed them acting in ways that are unusual for your relationship and you are concerned.? you value the friendship and wish to keep them in your life. perhaps they are not even aware of what they are doing.? as a friend you do get to point it out.

I recently used this option and it opened up a conversation that completely cleared the air and gave both of us a better energy about the friendship. very worth it.

I have? also used this option and had the friend say I think we need to not be friends anymore.?? that was weird and it did hurt, but that person wanted the option of not having to acknowledge their actions and take responsibility. I had to honour that. also made me realize that they value I put on the friendship was not reciprocated.? good lesson. ? hurts at the time, but it is really a gift.? after you are not spending so much energy on them and their life it creates space for people that are more in alignment with you to show up.

so, as I peruse my relationships I realize that there are even layers of friends with each being valuable.?? I love that. there are those close kindred soul friends that we turn to when we need to work things out or that are one of the? first we want to tell? when we have super exciting things happen.? these are the ones that when you hear from them you smile instantly.

there are those who are friends that we delight in contacting or running into unexpectedly but do not always have the time to see or chat with on a regular basis.? or are online pals that you chat with but have never met in person.? yet.

then there are acquaintances.?? you still delight in seeing them and would love to get a coffee sometime but your lives are so busy that you simply never make it happen.? you share news and are delighted for each other, but the expectations are not as high as with a close friend. ? friends are usually? acquaintances until? becoming? friends.?? that is how it works.

so, changing my perspective and choosing to take the pressure off of someone by releasing my expectations and letting them be more of an acquaintance than a friend is a good idea.?? perhaps they have a lot going on in their life and cannot be the kind of friend I expect.? the timing is not right or I have not let the friendship develop naturally, instead trying to rush it.? something to ponder for sure.

I know that? with the energies being presented to us by the Universe right now we can no longer ignore situations and hope they work themselves out.? they will simply re occur in a different form.? we either find a way to make peace with the situations, create a change or disengage.? Life is messy.

a lot of us are being nudged to re evaluate our relationships with a realistic eye. what are your expectations from a friendship? do you have people in your life that are really more of an acquaintance energy and you want them to be a friend?

on the flip side though hanging out with people who? truly wish to share in your life as much as you wish to share in theirs is a gift. this is one of those areas in your life where quality is more important than quantity.? so much of life creates situations that we spend time with people we would not chose as friends.? part of the messy learning.?? realizing that your friend list can be your choice is powerful and empowering.

lots of Hugs

Shannon

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Source: http://www.goddessroxyrancherhealing.com/2012/03/friend-or-acquaintance/

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